Thursday Thoughts

I apologize for the absence these past several days. I’ve been extra busy at home, meeting writing deadlines,  and with volunteering at school and I do apologize. Frequent posts will return in the next couple of days.

Our son is doing OK….as well as can be expected for someone who has endured what he has faced in the past month. We still seek a satisfying outcome to this matter.

It’s been one month now. In this month, I have received 146 emails from people all over the world sharing their experiences. More than half of these people are from the Rochester area and more than 30 are from parents within this school district.

There is a bullying crisis. It happens in affluent private schools and inner city public schools.  It happens here, in our charming community with tree lined streets and friendly neighbors. Our school district has dropped the ball on this one.  As I mentioned before, this bully who has picked on my son and several of his peers since preschool continues to verbally and physically harm others (as in the case of punching Nick’s friend 2 weeks ago at recess bringing the boy to tears) without any true consequences.

I’ve received emails from parents of children as young as kindergarten sharing bullying experiences.

I don’t know personally if it is people turning a blind eye or districts not wanting to tarnish their good reputations, but until there is a true community effort to combat this epidemic, it will continue. We’ve been looking at area private schools at this point. I have an appointment to look at another next week. Unless there is true change, we will not be keeping Nick in this district. When a child who once loved every single aspect of school comes home and says he only feels comfortable in his main classroom, it is a problem.

I will keep you posted on this and next week, we will take a look at anti-bullying legislation in certain states.

Keep sharing your stories. We’ll work together to see what we can do to bring about change.

I also want to share something my friend MB had on her Facebook page:

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take out a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stomp on it and really mess it up, not to rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty it was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now, even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bullies another child, they may say they’re sorry, but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.


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